Some even think that “he will change” and that they will be the
engineers of this change. More often than not, that is not the case. And
this only leads to hurt, some too deep to ever recover from. If you’re
in a relationship with someone who does not respect you, is not faithful
to you or who physically abuses you, take a second to think about it.
What is really the appeal? And why do you stand these things? Do you
think you deserve better?
Sometimes, we’re afraid to let people go because of the notion, where do
we start from? Giving yourself to someone is a lot; you share time,
dreams, and so many other things. But if you spend more time fighting or
apologizing than being together, then you need to reconsider. Starting
again is not the worst thing. Yes, it will require strength and courage,
and yes, it will require picking up pieces, but it is a small price to
pay for a life of happiness.
Ladies, the signs are always there; he won’t just turn into a monster
overnight. You’ll see them in his responses, in the way he treats others
and in the way he treats you. If you’re noticing red flags, don’t wave
them off or sweep them under the carpet; deal with them now. Don’t be
blind to faults because of lies that you have planted in your own mind
about your partner and your relationship. Open your eyes and see things
for what they really are, not what you’d like them to be or what you
wish they were.
Respect yourself enough to walk away from people who don’t treat you
right. Sure, it might be thrill and fun in the beginning, maybe he is
incredibly hot and you can’t get over him, but these things won’t help
you when it really matters. Don’t lose yourself in the pursuit of a
relationship, don’t rate yourself second (I’m not saying be selfish, I’m
saying you’re a factor to be considered too when you’re making
relationship decisions).
Abuse can be addictive, and there are many forms of abuse: emotional,
physical, verbal, and so on. Take a close look at your relationship; is
it helping you grow? Is this something that is realistic long term? It
is true that in some cases, very rare cases, men have turned. But if
we’re being honest, is a leopard ever really rid of its spots?
Maybe your own argument is “but I love him!” To you I say, to love
someone, you have to first love yourself. Do you love yourself? Do you
consider your own happiness and dreams important? Stop bending over
backwards for people who will not do the same for you. Straighten up,
and walk away.
Please share your experiences in the comment section so others can learn.
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