Relationship with benefit-- LADIES & GUYS -- MUST READ

The cardinal rule of a friends with benefit relationship is not to let emotions get in the way. But what looks easy on paper is often much more difficult to follow in real life. So if you begin to suspect that your friends with benefit relationship is turning into something deeper, here are a ten signs to watch out for.

* You Call Each Other More Often

Regular communication is one of the hallmarks of a satisfying relationship. When two people are in love, they wish to keep in touch the whole day – through phone calls or text messages - even though they may be living under the same roof. Thus if you find that you and your friend are regularly exchanging emails, phone calls and text messages and especially about things not directly related to sex, like asking how your presentation/test/interview/trial went or whether you have finally got your car fixed - chances are you are exploring the space outside a strictly friends with benefits relationship.

* You Expect More

Even more significant than your frequent

communication is the fact that now you care

whether or not your friend replies to your

texts or emails right away. You check about a

billion times, refreshing the page over and

over. Likewise if you receive something from

your ‘friend’, you feel like replying

immediately and in case you don’t, he/she

usually asks about your tardiness the next time

you meet. Other signs of greater expectation

are when you seek their approval about a

new haircut or outfit and upset if they don’t

notice.

* You Are In Each Other’s Thoughts

A veritable sign of a budding relationship is

two people thinking about each other more

often than before – even when they are doing

things not directly related to a partner. For

instance you may be browsing through a

shopping mall and you pick up something your

‘friend’ had mentioned they needed. You think

you do this because you were out and it’s no

big deal but it is a distinct sign that he/she is in

your thoughts. Again your ‘friend’ texts you

funny things when out with his/her gang, just

because he/she is thinking of you.

* You Want To Hang Out

And not only in places where you can make

out. Instead you find that you like doing other

things with your ‘friend’; for instance you both

like jiving in a karaoke club or biking for long

distances. You meet in an art gallery and spend

an enjoyable afternoon browsing through

paintings or take part in a cooking class and

have fun trying out recipes. Sharing mutual

interests is one of strongest bonding factors in

real couples and if you are doing the same

with your ‘friend’, it is likely you are

discovering the pleasures of a real

relationship.

*You Find Other People Unsuitable

Yet another sure-shot sign of a growing relationship is when you begin to lose interest in other potential partners. For instance after you have been on a date, you can’t wait to see your ‘friend’ to tell them about how dumb the guy was or how the girl ate pizza with a fork. Likewise when your sex buddy has an actual date or ask you for dating advice, you always find flaws with the new people or tell them they can do better.

* You Are In No Hurry

The nature of your sexual relationship is sure

to hold a few pointers if you have been

moving from a strictly friends with benefits to

more emotional involvement. For instance

when you start kissing, you enjoy it for a long

while and are in no hurry to get to the final

base. In fact you may even be kissing more

often as a greeting and not just as a pathway

to sex or out of obligation in the morning.

Similarly after a hook up you are in no mood

to part ways quickly; so after you spend the

night together, you probably sleep in and get

brunch the next day.

* You Cuddle Up

After you hook up, you stay in each other’s

arms and nuzzle each other’s necks and talk

sweet nothings. You cuddle or put yourselves

in a spooning position. All these are behaviors

are ways of reinforcing emotional attachment

through physical gestures and could signal red

flags in your friends with benefits relationship.

*Sex Is No Longer The Most Important Thing

You go over to hook up with your ‘friend’ but

end up watching TV and eating pizza

together. Or perhaps he/she massages your

back for you when you go over after a

stressful day at work. At times like these you

don’t even need sex and happily fall asleep

leaning on each other on the couch. When sex

is no longer the primary focus in your

relationship, it is evident that you are getting

closer to each other in an emotional or even

romantic way.

*You Do Things For Each Other

A surefire sign of a friends with benefit

relationship turning into something more is

when you both like to do things for each other

that are not remotely connected to sex.

Perhaps one of you has cooked for the other

one or one of you has made the other a mix

CD. Again you may have gone out of your

way to collect your friend’s favorite dessert

for a night he/she is coming over or perhaps

he/she has surprised you with a gift of your

favorite book or painting. Indulging each

other with things and gestures not connected

primarily to sex are one of the common traits

of a deepening emotional attachment.

*You Are Less Secretive

While society has become more accepting of

different kinds of relationships, a sex buddy is

still someone that you would not like to

advertise in your daily life. Thus if you find

yourself becoming less secretive about your

relationship with this ‘friend’, chances are you

are looking for a relationship based on trust

and honesty instead of something furtive. Thus

now when your ‘friend’ posts something to

your facebook wall, you probably don’t fly

into a panic and delete it immediately before

anyone sees. Also you don’t mind being clicked

with your ‘friend’ and it being available for the

whole world to view – indeed you may even

feel a certain pride that your relationship is

now out in the open and does not exist solely

behind closed bedroom doors.

After all these things, do The Needful when necessary

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THE 30 GOLDEN RULES FOR A GOOD WIFE

1). Never raise your voice for any reason to your husband. Its a sign of disrespect
2). Don’t expose your husband’s weaknesses to your family and friends. You are each other’s keeper
3). Never use attitudes and moods to communicate to your husband, you never know how your husband
will interpret them
4). Never compare your husband to other men, you’ve no idea what their life is all about.
5). Never ill treat your husband’s friends because you don’t like them, the person who’s supposed
to get rid of them is your husband
6). Never forget that your husband married you, not your maid or anyone else
7). Never a$$ign anyone to give attention to your husband, people may do everything else but your
husband is your own responsibility.
8). Never blame your husband if he comes back home empty handed. Rather encourage him
9). Never be a wasting wife, your husband’s sweat is too precious to be wasted.
10). Never pretend to be sick for the purpose of denying your husband $ex
11). Never compare your husband to your one time $ex mate in bedroom
12). Never answer for your husband in public opinion polls, let him handle what is directed to him although he may answer for you in public opinion polls
13). Never shout or challenge your husband in front of children
14). Don’t forget to check the smartness of your husband before he checks out
15). Never allow your friends to be too close to your husband.
16). Never be in a hurry in the bathroom and on the dressing table. Out there your husband is always surrounded by women who took their time on their looks
17). Your parents or family or friends do not have the final say in your marriage. Don’t waste your time looking up to them for a final word
18). Never base your love on monetary things. Will you still submit to him even if you earn more money than him?
19). Don’t forget that husbands want attention and good listeners, never be too busy for him
20). If your idea worked better than his, never compare yourself to him. Its always teamwork
21). Don’t be too judgemental to your husband
22). A lazy wife is a careless wife. She doesn’t even know that her body needs a bath
23). Does your husband like less cooked food?, try to change your cooking
24). Never be too demanding to your husband, enjoy every moment, resource as it comes
25). Make a gla$$ of water the very first welcome to your husband and everyone entering your home.
Sweetness of attitude is true beauty
26). Don’t a$$ociate with women who have a wrong mental attitude about marriage
27). Your marriage is as valuable to you as the value that you give it. Recklessness is unacceptable
28). Fruit of the womb is a blessing from God, love your children and teach them well.
29). You are never too old to influence your home. Never reduce your care for your family for any
reason.
30). A prayerful wife is a better equipped wife, pray always for your husband and family

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See 10 Serious Problems Girls With Big B00bs Face

There are some struggles, only girls with big breas'ts understand. Some people dream about getting bigger brea'sts. But we should say that big b00bs are not always a good thing.

1. You should wear two bras when exercising. No matter how sporty and supportive they claim to be. They are never enough. Running turns into hell. No matter how many bras you wear.

2. Shirts with buttons never fit correctly. No matter what size you buy, they are gapping at your chest. And this is not an effect you wanted to achieve. And if a shirt fits you across your chest – it is big everywhere else.

3. Buying a swimming suit is a real challenge. Very often you have to get bigger size of the top.

4. Usually bras comes in boring colors: black white and Unclad. It is hard to find a large size cup of cute bright color. And strapless bras are a taboo.

5. Putting a bra in the morning is like an exercise. And the time when you can take it off is the happiest moment of the day.

6. Your cute pendants and necklaces can get lost in your cleavage.

7. It is hard and uncomfortable to sleep on your stomach.

8. Even basic outfits can look too extravagant and s exy on you. For example Nollywood Actress, Yvonne Jegede, says she should not be blamed if her clothes are not big enough to cover her very big bo obs.

9. Many people think that it is OK to ask your bra size. And it is not.

10. And the last, but not the least – your friends don`t understand your complaints. Simply because they see no problems in having a large chest

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7 Companies Guys Work With That Can Make Ladies Quickly Date Or Marry Them

The need for financial stability is one of the main key if not the main key to win a lady's heart.

Therefore in a society like ours and perhaps others, the competition to marry rich dudes is increasing day by day due to the current harsh economy.

For instance, guys have u ever wonder why a monkey looking man is married to or dating a beautiful lady while fine boy is being rejected or dumped by ladies? The answer is Money.

However, ladies at the hearing of where some guys work can make them quickly initiate green-light mode for love leading to relationship/marriage because of their earning and these companies are;

Oil and Gas

A guy working with shell, exxonmobile, chevron, schlumberger, etc is a big boy. Guys in this category attract ladies like ant to a sugar source because ladies know their worries for financial help is over.

Blue Chip

FMCG guys especially the sales force team are well paid and looking even much better than those working in AC environment. This category of guys do not only have money but also their mouth is so sweet tongue that ladies find it hard to resist their proposal.

Aviation

If a guy approach a lady and say "My name is Michael, I am a pilot in Etihad airways". Even if the lady is not in the mood to entertain stranger, hearing "Pilot" alone will raise her eyebrow.

Telecommunication

Telecom guys have swags and confidence that can make ladies easily fall for them. Due to the fame in the industry as they sponsor many shows and pay celebrity massive money, the brand name speaks for them and gets ladies attention quickly.

Medical field

Doctors don't look for jobs and are well paid. As a result of this, Ladies accept doctor's proposal and wish to settle on time with them.

Military

Ladies are fun of fronting their boyfriends especially if he is working with Air force and Navy. Ladies love guys on uniform with richly en downed pocket.

Bank

Gradually this is falling out of the favourites but still pay well for employees. Ladies are attracted to guys who walk in banks like GTB, 1st bank, Zenith and few among others. Their good looking and charming smile coupled with their stable financial income is a green light for ladies. 

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10 Qualities Of A Real Woman

There are many similarities here to what you’d find in a great man. The qualities themselves aren’t gender specific, but the intricacies of them can be.

A list containing great qualities a real woman can go on and on, but here are a solid ten that mostly anyone can appreciate and respect.
1) A Real Woman Is Confident

She is happy with herself and her own abilities. She appreciates who she is as an individual, embraces her femininity and is proud to be a woman.
2) A Real Woman Is Honest And Upfront

She recognizes the destructiveness behind undisclosed expectations. She’s straight forward and respectful about setting boundaries and the tempo of her relationships early on.
3) A Real Woman Has A Healthy Handle On Her Emotions

She knows it’s OK to feel down, bummed out, or really shitty that one week out of the month, but more importantly she knows how to weather the storm correctly. If there are any shortfalls on the emotional front she recognizes them and adjusts accordingly.
4) A Real Woman Is Strong And Independent

She is determined, driven and able to accomplish great feats. Her ability to be so strong is derived from her own knowledge, intuition and ambition.
5) A Real Woman Has Patience

For herself and those around her she knows how to play it cool. In the face of adversity she is able to tap the proper resources to conquer any problem, instead of just giving up.
6) A Real Woman Shares The Right Amount Of Drama

She has the right amount of drama to share with her man. Positive and negative. A great man will be always be there for her (to listen and understand), but anything above and beyond a certain threshold she know’s to dish with her girlfriend’s and not with him.
7) A Real Woman Has A Defined Purpose

Whether personally or professionally, she has great goals and desires. She knows that with the right amount of inspiration and motivation anything is possible and is willing to do what it takes to make her dreams a reality.
cool A Real Woman Is Secure

She’s comfortable in her own skin. Jealousy, doubt and fear go out the window because she is confident in herself and her choice in a partner – as well as her partners choice in her.
9) A Real Woman Is There

She represents a strong link in the chain that holds those close to her together. She embraces the many roles she plays and is actively present as a mother, wife, girlfriend and friend. When she’s needed the most, she is there.
10) A Real Woman Values A Real Man

She appreciates and respects the value and worth of the men in her life. She knows that part of being a great woman is recognizing and embracing the qualities of a great man. She does not need a man in her life to be happy, but if she has one she stands by him. She believes in his purpose and who he is – which makes going in the same direction with him that much easier.

A great routine to get into is an honest evaluation what you want out of partner and if you are also a good match with what you are looking for.

This list can be used as a great starting point but only you are able to determine the particulars and unique elements that work for you. There are many more than just 10 qualities to a real woman and it’s up to you to determine which are most important.

Also, remember to take a hard look at what you want from yourself. It is very indicative of what you will move on to acquire in your life.

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5 Smart Ways To Make A Nigerian Lady Marry You.

1. Are you a fine boy? Forget all you've heard, the truth is NIGERIAN GIRLS LOVE HANDSOME MEN. Though many do end up with not-too-handsome dudes, and it's not their fault. A lot of good-looking Nigerian men rely more on their looks and invest little in character and other qualities. 'Ugly men' on the other hand invest a lot in character,wealth and other qualities unrelated to their physicaL appearance. If you are a good-looking guy,but also focused more on character, making good money, God etc, A Nigerian girl will pick you ahead others.

2. Be Bold and Blunt: This may sound ridiculous, but a Nigerian single lady will register a total stranger in her subconscious if he walks up to her from nowhere and says, "I think I want to marry you". This does not mean she'll say "Yes" or that you (the stranger) won't get a dirty slap (very unlikely though), she'll most probably laugh, hiss and walk away. This scenario is in the event that you met her at a random public location. If you met this Nigerian lady say in her office, and told her you want to marry her from day one...with subsequent, persistent and follow up visits, she'll say "Yes" in 3 to 6 months.

3. Let your first date be in her parents house: when you've seen a Nigerian lady that you want to marry visit her in her parents or guardian's house first before taking her out to cinemas, malls, beach etc. If she's not staying with parents or guardians, insist on meeting them first (even if dem dey village) . This move/gesture has a psychological effect on Nigerian ladies, makes them let down their guards and take you VERY SERIOUSLY.

4. Ensure your current house is at least a 2 bedroom flat with no male squatters. When a serious Nigerian lady comes to visit you, and she meets a mini-flat with mattresses on the floor and one or two of your guys wearing boxers and 'hailing' her, chances of her marrying you diminishes by 60%. If a more serious suitor walks into her life at that moment,and he lives ALONE in a 2 or 3 bedroom flat, SHE WILL MARRY HIM.

5. If she's already wearing another man's engagement ring then your chances are brighter: Yes, this is a very controversial point but Nigerian ladies that are already engaged tend to be very vulnerable, relationship wise; they tend to feel as though being on the edge of a cliff and waiting for a 'reasonable voice' to tell them "DON'T JUMP". You can end up being that 'reasonable voice' when you fall in love with a Nigerian lady that is already engaged to another man. Hey, she hasn't said "I do" yet, hence all is fair in love and war. If you really love her, take advantage of her vulnerable state of being engaged and sell yourself as a better product. SHE WILL LISTEN and there's a 49% chance that she'd say "Yes" to you. 49% is NOT a bad probability ratio at all considering the circumstances.

Comments and insults are Welcome.

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