21 Signs You’re Dating Someone You’ll Miss Like Crazy Whenever You’re Apart

1. Saying good-bye to your boyfriend or girlfriend is your absolute least favorite thing to do, even if you know you’ll be seeing them again in a relatively short amount of time. 

2. The second you separate, you start counting down the days, hours, and minutes until you get to see each other again. 

3. Time definitely slows when you’re not together. Minutes become hours, hours become days, days become weeks. Actually. It’s painful.

 4. It doesn’t matter if what you’re doing while you’re away from your lover is fun and enriching and/or professionally necessary. A tiny part of you doesn’t want to be there because the person youlove can’t be there too. 

5. It’s not that you don’t enjoy what you’re doing while you’re apart, or that you don’t adore the other people you’re with. You just want your significant other.alongside you always.

 6. Because your boyfriend or girlfriend is that life enhancing, at least in your view (which is the one that counts). 

7. You want to share everything with them—to experience moments large and small together forever. Especially the unimportant, dull, day-to-day stuff because tiny things take on new meaning when they’re involved.

 8. You want them to know where you are, what your surroundings look like, what you eat for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, and what time you wake up and go to bed. 

9. You feel constantly compelled to check in with each other by whatever means possible—text, email, voice notes, etc.

 10. So you send your boyfriend or girlfriend ridiculously detailed updates (including photos, of course) about your whereabouts and what you’re eating andwhat you look like right before you fall asleep. 

11. A nonsensical emoji laced text or a weird voice note from your partner puts an absurdly wide smile on your sappy face and you love that they have the power to make you so happy from a distance with the simplest measures. 

12. If one of you is away for more than aday, $exting regularly is obviously necessary.

 13. When the day you get to see each other again finally arrives, you’re literally brimming with anticipation from the second you wake up. 

14. You spend the entire day fantasizing about what you’ll do to each other right when the person who was traveling walks through the door. 

15. Maybe you even masturbate to that fantasy hours before reuniting because you just can’t help yourself. That won’t stop you from having $ex as soon as humanly possibly, though. You want your partner’s nak*d body so badly—to love, cuddle, and sleep next to—it actually hurts.

 16. Once you’re together again, it doesn’t even matter if you bicker a little because being in the same room is satisfying no matter what you’re doing or what mood you’re in.

 17. What’s important above all is that you’re back in each other’s company, tackling the world arm in arm.

 18. It’s not that you can’t be alone, but that you’d rather not be. 

19. Maybe you can’t live without each other. But if that’s the case, isn’t it a privilege to have a bond that strong? 

20. You’re glad you’ve found someone you’re so attached to, and you wouldn’t change a thing about your relationship. Who cares if people call you co-dependent (as if that’s a bad thing, necessarily)? 21. Absence really does make the heart grow fonder, but it’s annoying AF too.

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3 Mistakes That Will Ruin Your Marriage QUICKLY

Mistakes are only natural in a marriage. There is no such thing as perfection. But there are certain mistakes where once it’s done there’s no undo b*tton. 

The best option is to work toward a better outcome. If there is no attempt in rectifying the mistakes, the marriage will begin to suffer.Many of us commit the same mistake over and over for reasons only we know. But what we fail to see is when we commit the same mistakes, we are hurting our spouses and children.

 

If you find yourself committing the following mistakes, take a step back and consider how your mistakes are possibly setting a negative tone in your marriage, and with your children.

1. Lie

“I’m only saying a white lie. He’ll never find out.” That statement is not necessarily true. There are circumstances in which you tell your spouse a white lie after you rationalize why it’s acceptable and get away with it. Oftentimes, the truth will prevail. And when it does, your spouse will feel deceived and believe you have lied about other things throughout the marriage. You create space for doubt. Also, depending on the age, children will pick up on what is going on in their parents’ lives. They can see and sense uncertainties and concerns. They will pick up on that negative behavior and believe lying is the proper way to handle problems.

2. a$$ume

 Do not a$$ume one spouse is responsible for everything. Once you are in a marriage (and have children), both parties should share responsibilities. In some instances, one spouse handles a little more of his share than the other, but it’s up to the couple’s discretion. Nevertheless, one spouse expected to do it all is not reasonable. If that is the case, why be married? For example, if you have children, both parents must be involved in their lives. Join them in their activities, help them with homework and be there as a friend.

 If one parent a$$umes the other parent can take care of their children’s needs, they are affecting their own relationship with their children. Children will not feel comfortable approaching the parent who is unavailable most of the time. Remember, the household is not that of a single parent.

 3. Disrespect

 It’s common for couples to get on each other’s nerves. They bump heads a lot. However, the key is to never lose respect for one another. Once the insults begin, there is no going back. Do not throw the past in your spouse’s face. Do not take each other for granted. If you are in doubt about something, do not look through each other’s personal belongings seeking for answers. I was guilty of that. When I experienced it, I felt invaded. If you have doubts, don’t be intimidated to discuss your concerns with your spouse. Respect each other’s space, opinions and beliefs. Again, mistakes are normal.

 If we do not commit them, how are we supposed to learn and grow as a couple? However, the lesson to learn is once you make the mistake, you are not to make it, again. In a marriage, there is no room for making the same mistake twice

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THE THINGS YOU MUST NOT DO DURING DATING:

When some people are in love, it's like their brain stop functioning. Lol. They do abnormal things. we should always allow our brain to control our emotion. Don't be too excited; don't be carried away. Here are the things you must not do before marriage:
1. Do not use your guy's picture as your profile picture on Facebook, twitter, etc.

2. Do not use your girl's picture as your profile picture on Facebook, twitter, etc.

3. It is very wrong for you and your guy/girl to put on the same type of cloth (same uniform) and be walking down the street together with uniform cloth. I think it is only married people that should do that.

4. It is not proper for you to fight over your boyfriend/girlfriend.

5. It is not proper for you to use the picture which you and your guy/girl snapped together as your profile pix on Facebook. Only married people should do that.

6. Do not cohabit, i.e a guy and a girl should not live together in a house if they are not yet married. As a lady, when you pack out of your parents house and start living with your boyfriend, I see you as as a harlot and a stupid girl without shame. how dare you sell yourself too cheap? If a man did not pay your bride price before keeping you in his house, he will never value you and your parents.

7. There is nothing wrong in a guy spending money on his girl, but the girl should not take it as if it is the responsibility of the guy to feed her, cloth her and sponsor her. As long as the guy is not yet married to you, whatever money he gives to you is just an assitance. It is not his responsibility or duty to give you money.

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14 Signs He Is A Real Man And Has Control Of His Life.

He understands that beauty is evanescent and He falls in love with you because of your personality, intelligence, humor and the way you make him feel. 

He takes responsibility for his mistakes cos he isn't perfect and is bound to make mistakes, he accepts his faults, makes an apology and means it. He doesn't shift blames or try to defend his mistakes. 

He is confident, ambitious, passionate for other things besides his relationship and doesn't let the relationship define him. 

He is honest and trustworthy, he values truth and lives by it. He always chooses to be honest no matter what the situation may be. 

He is always ready to provide financial support and doesn't see you as a gold digger, he sees you as special and takes much pride in the way he treats you . Cutehector 

He is hardworking and always strive to be the best in all he does. 

He is willing to fight and wait for the woman he desires cos he knows nothing good comes easy.. 

He stands up for himself and defends his relationship even when he is among his family and peers, he speaks up and stands his ground in defence of his relationship with you. 

He knows the value of his woman and never hesitates to appreciate her. 

He is always ready to satisfy her sexually, he can risk his life just to give her the pleasure she desires  tosyne2much

He doesn't use past relationship failures as an excuse to why he doesn't want to commit to a woman. TheSonOfMark 

He doesn't see sleeping with women as fun and a game, he commits to a relationship. 

He doesn't derive joy in degrading or ridiculing a lady. The sonofananimal 

He doesn't care what people say or think about him and finds nothing wrong in washing his woman's undies and loosing her hair. Wristbangle

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20 Signs You Are Unconsciously A People Pleaser

People-pleasing is a strong trait of the youth.
In our younger years, we can’t wait to fit in with people that we admire. And in the course of doing that, we don’t mind changing a wee bit of our personality just to appear *cooler* in front of others.


But how far would you go to please someone else? And what would you be willing to give up just to make others happy? And most importantly, does this youthful trait exist within you even now?
Who is a people pleaser?


A people pleaser is a person who gives a lot of importance to pleasing others. And in the process, their primary intention is to be liked and appreciated in return by the people they try to please.

20 signs you’re an overeager people pleaser
Think about these signs with an open mind, and ask yourself if you can relate to them. You may think you’re not an overeager people pleaser, but try to look deep within yourself to understand the real person within you. After all, there’s nothing worse than living in denial.
If you find yourself relating to most of these 20 signs, there’s a good chance you’re a people pleaser.


#1 You crave for compliments.You’re very liberal with your compliments when you’re around friends or colleagues in the hope of getting a compliment back from others.


#2 You want to be noticed.You get upset if no one notices your new haircut or the new shirt you’re wearing to work. If no one compliments a dress you’re wearing, you a$$ume it looks bad on you even if you loved it when you bought it at the store.


#3 You lie about your opinions.You don’t have your own identity, and you constantly say you like something even if you don’t enjoy doing it, just to fit in with your group of friends. You don’t know who you are because your likes and dislikes change all the time depending on the people that are around you.


#4 You can never say no.You don’t like offending anyone because you’re afraid they may think badly of you if you refuse to help them with something.


#5 You don’t care about your loved ones.You pay a lot of attention to your new friends or colleagues, and work very hard to please them because you want them to think highly of you. But at the same time, you take the people that truly love you for granted, because you know they love you and will always be there for you regardless of how you behave around them or treat them.


#6 You’re active around new friends.But you always shirk responsibility or avoid giving your input when you’re with people who know you very well. You work harder with friends you’re trying to please, but you get lazy when it involves just you or someone who already likes you.
You may think you’re being yourself with people you know well, and don’t need to impress them. But you need to remember that your loved ones will always feel like you’re taking their love for granted because you’re always nicer to people who don’t care about you.


#7 You always have a smile.You never get angry with your friends or colleagues even if they do something that’s extremely upsetting. Instead, you force all that rage within yourself in the form of implosive anger.


#8 You want love. You want people to like you wherever you go, and you want everyone you meet to think of you with warm affection. You always try to show your best side to anyone you meet and you constantly hope that everyone you meet remembers you fondly.


#9 The opinion of others. The opinion of other people matters a lot to you and your own decision making. You make your decisions based on other people’s desires. You ask all your friends to share their opinions with you, and you give more thought to what they say than what you believe is right.


#10 You like attention all the time.You fear losing friends and you care too much about being liked by everyone. And you can’t ever imagine being hated by others or being lonely.


#11 You hurt easily. You get hurt very easily when your friends neglect you or go somewhere without involving you. You want to feel loved all the time, and you can’t stand it when someone thinks you’re not important in their life.


#12 The big sacrifices.You sacrifice your own happiness just to please someone else and win their approval, or to get a compliment from them.


#13 You can’t take criticism.A people pleaser will change their behavior, but they will never accept that they’re flawed because it makes them lose their self esteem even more.


#14 You’re a liar, even though you will never admit it.You’re not honest about who you are. You’re not honest to yourself about your own likes and dislikes. Your beliefs and values change all the time, just as long as they match that of your new friends whom you’re trying to impress.
Even though you feel like something is wrong, you convince yourself that it’s right because your friends are all doing it.


#15 You hate anyone who doesn’t like you or sees you as a fake. You don’t try to question yourself as to why they may have this opinion about you. Instead, you just hate them or speak ill of them because you don’t like seeing yourself in bad light.


#16 Ps and Qs.You say ‘sorry’ and ‘thank you’ without even thinking. You just like saying it because it makes you seem more accommodating and nicer.


#17 You hate confrontation. You spend several sleepless nights over the smallest argument with a new friend. And you do whatever it takes to make up for it, even if it’s not your fault. But you wouldn’t do the same for the people you’ve already taken for granted.


#18 You’re too guarded.You don’t like losing control of yourself, especially when you’re having a drink. You have too many secrets, and none of your friends know all your secrets. You hide the person you really are, because you don’t want anyone to see your flaws or your negative side.


#19 You give too much too soon. And many a times, people take you for granted. You try too hard to please your new friends, and you do whatever it takes to ensure that they have a good opinion about you. But almost always, these new friends may end up using you and taking advantage of your niceness.


#20 You always fall for flattery. A people pleaser can’t resist flattery. And manipulative people know how to use flattery very well.

When you come in contact with a manipulator, they’ll learn to use you and squeeze you dry all the time by using their flattery-request line. “You’re so good at doing this. Can you do it for me too?”
Your self respect and your people pleasing attitude
Being a people pleaser may feel nice because it makes you feel appreciated and loved all the time. And as long as you’re getting those compliments, you may not think twice about bending over backwards for anyone.


But when you’re a people pleaser, you’re not really creating any true relationships. You’re only putting on a fake facade that others want to see in you.
Start believing in yourself more. And most importantly, understand that you’re an individual and you are who you are. You don’t need anyone’s approval or compliment to make you feel more worthy.

When you truly believe in yourself and love yourself for the person that you are, you’ll invariably lose your people pleasing cravings. And for the first time in your life, you’ll start caring more for the people that truly care about you instead of taking them for granted.

Use these 20 signs to find out if you’re a people pleaser. And if you find that people pleasing streak in you, start believing in your own abilities and stop depending on the opinions and compliments of others. That makes all the difference.
By Jessica Dawson

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10 MENTALITY OF AN AVERAGE LADY

This write-up is not based on mere assumption but my findings and encounter with ladies

It takes the grace of God if you aint guilty of at least one of the listed points

Lemme Keep The Ball Rolling

10 Mentality Of An Average Lady

1. A guy must be the one to start up a chat and he must be the one throwing the questions else he is not ready to chat

2. The society frawns against a lady making her intentions known to a guy, therefore, a guy has to keep pestering you b4 you finally agree in order to show to him that you aint cheap or desperate

3. A lady has to hide her virginity status or pretend to hate sex in order to portray a descent or an attractive image
4. Sending Pm to a dude will make you lose your self esteem or pride as a lady

5. The mentality of an average lady is that, a guy should settle the bills. When the bill arrives at the table, you pretend it doesn’t exist cos you believe it’s less of your worry cos a guy should always settle the bills by default

6. You are doing a guy a great favour by allowing sex. Some will go as far as stripping unclad raining curses on a dude the moment he fuckks up because they consider it as a favour

7. A guy who loves you will go extra mile. Most ladies are brainwashed by this assertion. That is, a lady believes she can treat a guy the way she wants and expects the guy should be able to withstand any poo at the expense of true love
, not knowing you can pursue a man God has destined 4u out of ignorance and selfish motive

8. Any guy who tries to strike up a convo or pay your transport fare will later ask for your phone number ‘cos he wants to woo you
9. You have to give unending busy excuses in order to portray an image of rear commodity

10. Majority of our ladies believe our world revolve around sex and that 90% of guys will never resist sex. This sounds really funny but it is the real fact. I have spoken to so many ladies and I have come into conclusion that majority of our ladies believe that 90% of guys lack self control and will never resist sx at any slight given opportunity

ABI NA LIE???

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